You are a very important person in your child’s life. The world will feel very scary for them if you are suddenly not there. So, it’s really important that you do everything you can to remain involved in your child’s life.

Sometimes, remaining involved can be tough. You may not have anywhere suitable to see your children. Your child’s other parent may try to stop you seeing your child. The hurt at the ending of your relationship may make you want to just walk away completely. However difficult it may feel, do everything you can to stay involved.

Parenting from a distance

If you find that you are parenting from a distance, try to agree ways of keeping in touch with your child on a regular basis. If your child is very little, then a daily phone call can be reassuring. Older children will welcome less frequent but still regular contact, either by phone, letter, email or SMS text.

Don’t expect your children to travel long distances too often. If you are living some distance from your child, see if you can find ways of seeing them in their own home town. If they visit you, but only occaisionally, make sure that they are made to feel welcome and valued. Doing something as simple as buying bedding together can make your child feel more at home.

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